Enjoy their interview :
How did you meet?
Bunmi: Well, we met when he came to Nigeria on a visit. We had been talking on phone before then actually. We saw, talked, and saw that we could work. 😁
What attracted you to him/her?
Bunmi : His love for God, the things of God and humility. He is disciplined, serious-minded and of course, handsome. Lol.
Adebola: Love for God, beauty, focus, and intelligence.
How long have you been married?
Adebola: Three years.
Bunmi: Yes, we were legally married a year before the traditional marriage.
What do you appreciate about him/her?
Bunmi: He’s vision-minded and strategic, I mean, he plans well and thinks of the future, he listens to me and apologizes when he’s wrong or when I’m wrong and I emotionally blackmail him (lol). He supports my passion, he’s very knowledgeable and can approach anybody.
Adebola: She’s caring, loving, cooks well, creative, playful and romantic. She’s very blunt and corrects me when I’m wrong.
What do you wish he/she improves on?
Bunmi: Keeping his voice low because he has a naturally loud voice, so I always tell him to keep his voice down whenever he’s talking and especially when he’s angry.
Also, he needs to learn to be calm in upsetting situations and live for the moment sometimes. And yes, I told him he has OCD. He’s obsessively organized and he makes me feel like I’m the dirty one. Lol. He needs to take things easy abeg. And he should learn to take more pictures and also take pictures of me without me asking. Hehehe.
Adebola : She needs to stop procrastinating and learn to save more.
How does he/she complement you?
Bunmi : He is a good planner, saver, and does things he sets his mind to do without procrastinating while I’m the exact opposite! I’m grateful for these.
Adebola : She’s more of an introvert while I’m an extrovert. She’s calm while I tend to take things too seriously. She always tells me to be in charge of my emotions.
Who apologizes the most?
Bunmi: He does. I’m learning from him.
How do you settle quarrels?
Bunmi: Communication. It doesn’t always have to be verbal. Sometimes I write epistles and send them to him via WhatsApp. Followed by an apology and sometimes, makeup *clears throat* sex! *straight face* Lol.
Adebola: Communication and detailed explanation when necessary.
What do you think are the ingredients of a happy marriage?
Bunmi: Compatibility of values, mutual love, humour, and respect,. There cannot be a happy marriage without a good sense of humour.
Adebola: Forgiveness and selflessness, caring about the other party first.
What are the most important lessons you’ve learnt in marriage so far?
Bunmi: Not to say hurtful words when angry, love is a decision and not just a feeling, quarrels are normal in every relationship, do not keep record of wrongs, don’t compare your marriage or your spouse with others, and always speak up and don’t expect your partner to know what you are thinking.
Adebola: To correct in love and love your spouse for who she is.
If there was a next life, would you love to be married to him/her? Be sincere.
Bunmi: Oh yes! But because I’m creative and love to experience new things, I might want to know what it’d be like to be with someone else. Lol.
Adebola: Yes. I wish I had married earlier. Lol.
What lessons did you learn from this lovely couple? Feel free to share.
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